I think of how it used to be
At the risk of sounding curmudgeonly, let's review some basic rules of apologies:
- It is not ``vindictive'' of the person you've attacked to demand an apology.
- Neither is it the responsibility of the person you've wronged to request some consideration.
- An apology is not an opportunity for you to play passive aggressive games: ``If you weren't so lame I wouldn't have had to find people who wanted to beat you up'' is the brighter-than-average excuse of the proto-fascist twits who assault the bookish, imaginative seventh grader.
- Similarly ``I'm no longer angry at you so I'll allow you to receive my apology'' isn't an acceptable message.
- An apology is not in the subjunctive: ``If I've got to apologize to talk to you again, then I'm sorry'' isn't an apology.
- An apology is about your actions. Trying to whip up excuses in the actions of the person you've wronged is denying your responsibility, and therefore your apology.
Love can overcome most anything, but don't put extra obstacles in its way.
Trivia: Among books Euclid wrote that are now lost are Porisms (content uncertain); Fallacis, on detection of logical flaws; Conic Sections; and Loci On A Surface. Source: History of Mathematics, Florian Cajori.
Currently Reading: Living Dolls: A Magical History of the Quest for Mechanical Life, Gaby Wood.